thatonechick42:

thisisrapeculture:

[TW: Abortion, Medical Abuse]

magicalorphanboy:

bronzebasilisk:

ryunwoofie:

sonneillonv:

autumn-and-eve:

erinsmomma:

How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.

Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down
Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst

Hi, OP!  As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there!  You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants!  There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me!  I was SOOO lucky!  But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color.  Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society!  Neat huh?!

Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt.  Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive.  Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa???  And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL.  Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time?  Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!

Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home.  But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters!  This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE!  Isn’t that wonderful?

And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby!  I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him!  But I also nearly died giving birth to him.  You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world.  My blood pressure was 180 over 130!  At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah!  How funny is that?  And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son.  Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic!  And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST!  It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes.  You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again.  Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT.  :(  My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now.  I used to be tough).  These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix!  And many people go through worse!  I know, right?  Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny.  Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues.  Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!

I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous.  I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking.  I’m not trying to be mean!  :(  But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst.  That’s just a clump of cells.  Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL!  Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that!  They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids!  Isn’t that so caring of them?  I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me!  And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split!  Isn’t that wild?!  Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses.  But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?

Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption.  And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying.  Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs!  Isn’t technology AMAZING?

And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming?  Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted.  But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me.  And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her.  As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own.  Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them.  For some, that’s poverty.  For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability.  For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.

May your birth control never fail!

Pro.

Sonneillonv deserves a mother fucking standing ovation here.

Slow clap.

YES

Oh god.

I shouldn’t have googled “birth rape” before I went to bed.

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skyliting:

rememberyes:

boldmatter:

jadelyn:

likeadeadchinadoll:

and for those interested, you can find the report HERE

Just in case any dudebros are unclear on what this means: it means that your buddy who totally just had some bitch trying to ruin his life by accusing him of rape…almost certainly actually did rape her.  

Just keep that in mind.

Yeah man, imagine that, bitches don’t be lying.

Can we put this into context? It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true. 

It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true.

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Let’s see.  In its 6 sentences it has:

• 1 general statement of saying something happened.
• 1 REALLY vague description of the perpetrator (“muscular white male with a beard or facial hair” just described almost a quarter of the men at this school.)
• “Police have checked the area and will continue to patrol the campus.”
• 2 sentences that imply that the victim and potential victims’ behaviors should be restricted in order to NOT BE RAPED.  (Assault happened in area “isolated from most buildings and parking lots” aka don’t go anywhere that doesn’t already have a ton of people.  The whole “strength in numbers” bullshit)

My school does realize it spent twice as much time trying to control people’s behavior than it did giving us information that would help identify the person who did this, right?

Mallory Ortberg of Gawker, critiquing CNN’s disgusting response to the Stuebenville rape trial verdicts. 

Her commentary is spot on.

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K but over half a million women were raped in 2 years in the “Bosnian conflict”…

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Relevant to a paper we’re writing.

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polycule:

This Is My Body

My partner’s partner co-created this masterpiece, and it is relevant to every single human. [Though the creators, and myself, wanted to see more diversity in it, I still think it’s powerful despite that shortcoming.]

“My pursuit of orgasm is neither unnatural, nor dangerous, nor scary, nor an infringement on your religious liberty. My sexual activity exists for my benefit, not your pleasure.”

“Do not be afraid of a world where women know themselves, their voice, and their power. That world has arrived.”

This is an awesome video.

TW for discussion of rape, though.

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fandomfairy:

fan-tastig:

a-bitter-pearl:

#what I love about this isn’t that she hits him #or that she catches him off guard and manages to defend herself or any of that #what I really love about this is that it would be so easy #to play this scene as funny #because we know that Buffy has inhuman strength and that this guy’s gonna get his butt handed to him #and that could be funny #and completely ruin the seriousness of the fact that he’s trying to rape her #he clearly doesn’t see it that way #but obviously from his actions he’s not overly concerned with what she wants so #but anyway if you look at her face in the last one #that isn’t a triumphant ‘haha you thought I was a weak girl when really I can beat you up’#that’s a ‘you sicken me because if it were anyone else with you in this car what would you have done to her?’ #and because it’s Buffy #who’s used to defending herself against much stronger people #of course she’s able to fight back #but really #if it had been anyone else #even someone like Cordelia#how would that have turned out? #and that’s the expression I read on her face here #she’s looking at him and thinking about what he would have done to some other girl #and I just #love this show #okay #strong like an amazon

Pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before for the tags but I feel all of that needs repeating. 

We really should watch Buffy.

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transstingray:

think-progress:

Everyone in America should know that an actual candidate for U.S. Senate said this about women who are raped. 

Please share this.

what.

What the uterus can just magically tell that adequate consent wasn’t involved?

I’m sorry this angers me greatly

You talked to a Doctor of Sacred Theology, didn’t you?

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upworthy:

We also found pretty much the best video rundown of this situation — heavy on the snark, light on the sympathy for the rapists. Perfect.

(And of course we could not be more glad that the charges against her have been dropped).

CW because rape and judicial support of rapists.

But yes, I have 0 sympathy for all non-rape victim parties involved.

memecollection:

For more funny posts click HERE!

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-infecti0n:

I will reblog this every single time I see this on my dash.

People think that girls “ask for it” when they wear short skirts, tight shirts, revealing clothing etc. That’s not true at all, and you’re fucking ignorant if you think so.

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transstingray:

sanityscraps:

feministische:

TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE APOLOLGY, RAPE CULTURE, RAPE IDIOCRACY.

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sarahbrozio:

Prolifers that have no clue, and make them selves look like ignorant and uneducated morons make my day. 

This is the most DESPICABLE thing I have read all week.

I’M NOT SURE WHERE I CAN EVEN BEGINT O BE ANGRY ABOUTT HIS, BUT I HAVE A FEELING IT STARTS WITH HER CALLNG YOU ARLING AND ENDS IN HER INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY. 

This is fucking despicable.

But…how…why…

*screams in frustration*

I give up.

-Ivan

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TW:  discussions of violence, rape, murder, racism and cannibalism.

There are two opinions of Titus among us.

Option 1:  Shakespeare is trying to work with some particular greek myths and surpass them.  He is also showing how when society falls apart, chaos reigns.  The way he is doing so is just highly distasteful by today’s standards.

Option 2:  This is Shakespeare’s first “true tragedy,” and the reason why the most serious and gut-wrenching moments are played for laughs is that he has no idea what he’s doing.  In short, this just a horrible play.

What we know for sure is this:

-The characters feel that Aaron the Moor is “a devil” because of the color of his skin.  Lucius is implied to have gotten rid of Aaron’s child despite promises to save it.  Once Aaron serves Lucius’ purposes, he is left in a pit to die.  (Granted, Aaron the Moor is by no stretch of the imagination a nice man.  But that’s still a horrible way to die.)

-Lavinia, who is valued for having “virtue” (read:  virginity) is basically passed around as sexual property for her family’s political gain.  Then she is raped by two guys.  To prevent her from telling others who did it, they cut out her tongue and chop off her arms.  Her father, Titus, later kills her because according to his enemy Saturninus, “the girl should not survive her shame/ And by her presence still renew his sorrows ” (5.3.40-1).  Because that’s not endorsing blame-the-victim or slut-shaming at all.

-As part of his revenge plot, Titus kills the two brothers that raped Lavinia and bakes them into a pie.  Then he feeds it to their mother and step-father.

-The most horrible moments, including when Quintus and Martius are framed for murdering Bassianus, are played for laughs.  It’s pure physical comedy.

So yeah.  If this wasn’t attributed to Shakespeare, I doubt it would be studied by English majors today.  But does anyone have different thoughts about this?

-Alex

I honestly expect reblogs from all of my followers that are online right now. I don’t care what kind of blog you have, this is important to me.

ditto^

wow.

Seriously folks, this is messed up.

-Bill

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